Making Love Stay

Ellen says: I often think of relationship as each of us being given an intact heart and a single hole punch. Not most relationship can take a few holes, and we can patch them up, but too many and it begins to fall apart.

It's easy to put holes in relationship. Do you criticize?-- " You're too fat, you don't earn enough money, I don't like your hair." Do you find yourself comparing?--"You aren't as good cook as my mother, the man I work for at the office is much more intelligent than you are.."

What abou expectations?--"I thought I'll be much more success than you are." What about the issues of trust?--"I have to work late at the office, ", Gee, honey, I know it's two in the morning but I only stopped off for one beer." After we've been punched a certain number of holes in the heart, the relationship begins to disintegrate. You make the choices, you have the punch.