Self Worth

Ellen says: Some people cannot survive without the support, approval, or love of another person. They decide who that person is and then live for him or her. Sometimes we choose a parent, but it also can be a spouse, friend or a child.

We choose dependence because it seems safer. When children were not protected by their parents, they seek protection as adults. They want to be treated like children. We are taught to be dependent by parents or spouses who prefer control to equality.

We may feel worthless, so we usee others to remind us of our value. We allow them to be the measure of our worth. See if we are choosing to let someone else live our life. Then think about what we really want to do. What we want are atleast as important as what someone else wants for us, and it's much more likely to bring us happiness.