Ellen says: We all want control. We don't just want control over our own lives, we want control over everyone else's as well. It would be so much better if everyone else would jud=st be like us and do what we want them to do. "if only they would listen. "
if only they wouldn't be so mean or foolish"
We try anger, guilt, withdrawal, criticism all methods of control to get them fall into line. You may be able to get away with controlling children until they leave home or for as long as you pay the bills. It's a contract, I'll give you money if you let me have control.
That might be okay with employees because you are in charge of their paychecks. It's okay with pets because you provide the food and the shelter.
It's not okay with anyone else friends or relatives. You can tell them what you want, you can hope they get the drift, but you have no control over what they do or say.
When you get angry or hurt, chechk whether you're wishing you had control over someone. Peace of mind requires you to let go of that desire.
Let go..... Choose peace
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