Listen without judgement

Ellen says: When you say something upsetting or disappointing, do you listen to what is being said? Do you listen to the perpective or the feeling of the speaker? Or do you wait for your chance to disagree , to express your disappointment, to turn the conversation back to you. Disappointment are a part of every life, and every family's life. But the things you are dissapointed about is often far less important than the message you convey by how you react. Being respectful in the face of disappointment does not compromise an atmosphere of love and concern.

Unfortunately, many of us take the opportunity to examine our friends. It's not time for analysis of what went wrong.  Don't ask why your friends sometimes make failures. It's a time for offering support, for making sure you show your love. Your friends need yiou , you are not an analysis of their shortcoming.